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Who Will Deliver You? | Romans 7:24-25

by Alan Sharpe October 8, 2022

Who will deliver you from your body of death? God will. Who will deliver you from your sexual sin? God will.

by Alan Sharpe October 8, 2022

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Are you like the Apostle Paul? Do you ever cry out, “O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?” Do you find that the things you want to do, you don’t do? And that the things you shouldn’t do, you do? Can you say along with Paul, “For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice?” (Romans 7:19). Do you wonder who will deliver you?

Then Paul has good news for you. Or, rather, God has good news for you, communicated through His servant, Paul, in the letter that Paul wrote to the church in Rome. In chapter seven you see Paul’s predicament and yours laid out. With your mind you serve the law of God, but with your flesh you serve the law of sin. You have God’s Spirit, and you want to follow His leading. But you also have your sinful flesh, and you want to follow it, too.

This is why you have such conflict with pornography as a Christian man. Men in the world who consume pornography don’t struggle. They enjoy their sin. But you, i

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10 Things I’ve Learned After 10 Months Porn Free

by Alan Sharpe September 4, 2022

I looked at pornography for the last time on November 4, 2021. Here I am, 10 months later, with some lessons I’ve learned along my journey.

by Alan Sharpe September 4, 2022

I looked at pornography for the last time on November 4, 2021. I remember the date because that is the day I started this daily devotional. My goal was to help Christian men (and myself) abstain from pornography biblically. Here I am, 10 months later, and I have not looked at any pornography since then, and neither have I masturbated. Here are some lessons I’ve learned along my journey.

Pastors don’t want to address the issue of porn
Some pastors and church elders refuse to address the issue of pornography or masturbation from the pulpit or in private in any meaningful way with brothers in the congregation.
Temptation can come anytime, anywhere
A few days ago I visited a beach on a remote lake in Northern Saskatchewan. I was the only person on the beach. I suddenly experienced a strong temptation to take matters into my own hands, as it were. I was surprised at the suddenness of the urge, and that it struck in such an odd place. I resisted it nevertheless.
I don’t feel it if I don’t feed
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The Secret to Quitting Porn? | 1 Corinthians 2:1-5

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by Alan Sharpe September 3, 2022

You can be free of sexual immorality without spending a dime. Look to God alone. Seek Him as your strength, your motivation, your reason for staying sexually pure.

by Alan Sharpe September 3, 2022

And I, brethren, when I came to you, did not come with excellence of speech or of wisdom declaring to you the testimony of God. For I determined not to know anything among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I was with you in weakness, in fear, and in much trembling. And my speech and my preaching were not with persuasive words of human wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, that your faith should not be in the wisdom of men but in the power of God.
1 Corinthians 2:1-5

Want to know the secret to quitting porn? You don’t have to join a 12-step program. You don’t have to understand the limbic survival brain. There’s no need to complete a Sexual Dependency Inventory with a sex addiction counsellor ($695). And there’s no need to go through 12 month’s of clinical counselling ($9,000).

The remedy for your compulsive use of pornography and masturbation isn’t found in a book, or in a course, or across the couch f
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Consequences
Quit Porn in Three Words | John 5:14

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by Alan Sharpe August 17, 2022

Jesus doesn’t expect you to continue looking at porn any more than He expected the healed man from the Pool of Bethesda to continue in his sin.

by Alan Sharpe August 17, 2022

Afterward Jesus found him in the temple, and said to him, “See, you have been made well. Sin no more, lest a worse thing come upon you.”
John 5:14

One of the reasons I left Celebrate Recovery is that I never faced consequences for my sexual sin. Brothers like me, caught up in the sin of habitual porn use, would attend the meetings week after week, being pure one week, falling into sin the next, but nothing ever happened. Actually, something happened. We received a “First Time Attender” blue chip each time we reset our sobriety clock to one day of sobriety. This was not the biblical model for dealing with a brother who was living in sexual sin, so I left.

What I never heard at Celebrate Recovery meetings were those simple words of Jesus: “Sin no more.” Jesus said them to the woman caught in adultery (John 8:11), and he said them to the ma
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Temptation
The Blessing of Sexual Temptation | James 1:12

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by Alan Sharpe August 10, 2022

God has a crown prepared for you. It’s in your size. To receive it you must do something by not doing something.

by Alan Sharpe August 10, 2022

Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.
James 1:12

I don’t suppose you think often about the positive side of sexual temptation. For example, when you are in the midst of a struggle with lust, or when you are battling against the temptation to look at porn or to masturbate, I don’t imagine that you think about any rewards that could possibly come with those struggles. I know that I never did.

But the Apostle James tells us that there is a blessing attached to temptation. There is good that comes out of sexual temptation. That blessing comes directly from the hand of God. The man who is tempted sexually will receive a blessing from God. He will receive the crown of life. There’s just one condition.

Endurance.

The man w
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The Good News about Sexual Temptation | Luke 4:13

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by Alan Sharpe August 8, 2022

Nine months ago, I had no experience with lasting victory over sexual temptation. That has changed, and I’ve learned a vital, encouraging lesson.

by Alan Sharpe August 8, 2022

And when the devil had ended all the temptation, he departed from him for a season.
Luke 4:13

Sexual temptation seems unbearable when you are in the midst of it. Or perhaps I should speak for myself. Sexual temptation seems unbearable when I am in the midst of it. That is my “lived experience,” as they say these days. But I know something today about temptation that I didn’t know and that I couldn’t have believed nine months ago—it doesn’t last.

That’s right. The temptation to look at pornography, the temptation to masturbate, no matter how strong, eventually goes away. It doesn’t last. The good news about Jesus being tempted in the wilderness for 40 days, if I may put it this way, is that it lasted only 40 days. Jesus got the victory over the devil, and then the devil departed from Him. That’s the good news of temptation—it only lasts for a season.

Nine months ago, I had no experien
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Obedience
Eight Lessons Learned After Eight Months Porn Free

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by Alan Sharpe July 4, 2022

Eight months have passed since I looked at porn. I have learned a few lessons along the way.

by Alan Sharpe July 4, 2022

I looked at porn for the last time on November 4, 2021. I remember the day because that’s the day I started this daily devotional. That’s the day I got serious about forsaking my sin and never going back. Eight months have passed since then, and I have learned a few lessons along the way.

Writing these daily devotionals is a great motivator: I wish I was motivated by a more spiritual ambition, but simply writing this devotional each day gives me a tremendous incentive to not look at porn. I figure I will lose all moral authority if I commit the very act I write against seven days a week, and that fear keeps me motivated to not look.
Porn will find a substitute: Once I stopped looking at immoral images and videos, I noticed that I still had a hankering for titillation and excitement, so I turned to action movies and crime dramas. I eventually realized what I was doing, and also realized that these movies weren’t edifying or helping me become Christlike. I noticed that, just because I have swept the house clean
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Don’t Ask God for What He Has Already Given | 2 Peter 1:3

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by Alan Sharpe June 23, 2022

God promises that the divine power you need to resist porn and masturbation is already yours for the taking. You just have to take it.

by Alan Sharpe June 23, 2022

His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue.
2 Peter 1:3

You are guilty of it. I am guilty of it. In the midst of our struggle with sexual sin, we cry out to God, begging Him to give us strength to forsake our sin. We beseech God to give us power to overcome sexual temptation. We pray repeatedly, week in and week out, for God to deliver us from sexual urges. The problem is, He already has. We keep asking God to give us something that He has already given us.

This is the conclusion that you and I must draw from what Peter tells us. After all, if God “has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness,” why do we need to ask Him for anything else that pertains to life and godliness? We don’t. If God has already given to us all the divine power, all the resources, and every other thing we need to live a life that’s free of pornography and free of masturbat
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Judgment
How Long Can You Tread Water? | 2 Peter 2:9

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by Alan Sharpe June 22, 2022

Noah is proof that God knows how to deliver you out of your sexual temptations (and how to reserve the unjust under punishment for the day of judgment).

by Alan Sharpe June 22, 2022

The Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptations and to reserve the unjust under punishment for the day of judgment.
2 Peter 2:9

I don’t suppose you wake up each morning thinking about Noah, but maybe you should. After all, if you have a chronic problem with looking at pornography and masturbating, you do well to remember some lessons from the time of The Flood.

The first lesson is that Noah lived among a generation that Peter in his letter calls “ungodly” (2 Peter 2:5). As far as God was concerned, “the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually” (Genesis 6:5). And yet Noah, living among such wicked people and faced with all manner of temptations, found grace in the sight of the Lord.

Another lesson from Noah’s life is that God punished the wicked but delivered Noah and his immediate family. God brought a catastrophic flood upo
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How to Stop Masturbation as a Christian

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by Alan Sharpe June 2, 2022

If you want to stop masturbation as a Christian, get your guidance from the source. Follow these biblical steps to stop masturbating.

by Alan Sharpe June 2, 2022

When is the last time you heard a really great sermon about masturbation? Never, right? Masturbation is one of those topics that’s off-limits in the pulpit but commonplace in the pews. It’s one of those sins that no one wants to discuss but lots of people want to commit. If you want to learn how to stop masturbation as a Christian, you need to get your guidance another way. So here it is. Here are some biblical steps to take to stop masturbating.

Step 1: Admit Your Sin
Psalm 32:5

Step 2: Forsake Pornography
Matthew 5:28-29

Step 3: Resist the Devil
James 4:7

Step 4: Take Every Thought Captive
2 Corinthians 10:3-6
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Temptation
To Defeat Porn, Discover Your Who, What, Why, Where, When and How

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by Alan Sharpe May 17, 2022

To defeat sexual sin, you must understand yourself. Start with the Five Ws and the One H of your sexual temptation.

by Alan Sharpe May 17, 2022

When journalists want to get to the bottom of a news story, they ask the Five Ws and the One H. They ask about the Who, What, Why, Where, When and How. If you want to conquer sexual temptation, particularly the temptation to look at pornography or to masturbate, you must uncover the Five Ws and the One H of your sexual temptation. To defeat sexual sin, you must understand yourself. And that means discovering your six types of triggers.

Who Triggers You to Sin Sexually?

Let’s start with the Who of sexual temptation. Who tempts you to commit sexual sin? Who do you lust after? Who lusts after you?

As you read your Bible, you discover that men have been tempted to sin sexually for centuries. Most of them were tempted to sin with a particular woman. Job was tempted to lust after
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Yielding Doesn’t Remedy the Agony of Sexual Temptation | Hebrews 2:18

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by Alan Sharpe May 16, 2022

Overcoming a temptation to sin sexually makes the suffering end at once. But not for long.

by Alan Sharpe May 16, 2022

“For in that He Himself has suffered, being tempted, He is able to aid those who are tempted.”
Hebrews 2:18

For decades I followed the advice of Oscar Wilde, who famously said, “The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.” That advice is foolish, of course. But if you have ever been in the grip of a powerful desire to sin sexually, and if that desire has attacked you for some length of time, you know the level of suffering involved. And you know that one way to make that agony end is to simply give in and commit the sin. The temptation vanishes. The suffering ends.

Oscar Wilde was correct in one aspect—giving in to sexual temptation works. But only for a season. If you are feeling unbelievably horny, for example, and are feeling tempted to masturbate, you likely know that giving in and committing the sin makes the temptation go away immediately. You gain instant relief. You are tempted no longer. But not forever. The problem with m
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Eight Lessons I’ve Learned After Six Months Porn Free

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by Alan Sharpe May 4, 2022

If you are struggling with pornography, if it has a grip on you that you seem unable to shake, be encouraged. I went porn-free for six months. You can, too.

by Alan Sharpe May 4, 2022

I looked at pornography as a Christian for 30 years. In all that time, I knew that my sin was wicked, and that God hated it. I wanted to quit. I tried to quit, multiple times, and in multiple ways. And I did achieve sexual purity for a season. But I never lasted for long. That all changed when my 30th anniversary as a Christian arrived. I finally realized how ridiculous it all was, me still struggling with a besetting sin after 30 years for crying out loud. So, I got serious, and made some drastic changes in my life to quit porn.

Today marks my six-month anniversary of not looking at pornography and not doing the physical act that usually follows it. I have learned a few lessons on this journey, so here they are.

Sexual Purity is Possible: I can last six months without looking at pornography and not die. I can go six months without touching myself and the
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10 Steps I Take to Abstain from Pornography Daily, Biblically

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by Alan Sharpe April 28, 2022

I eventually got 24 hours of freedom from porn and masturbation. That turned into a week. Then a month. Then multiple months. You can, too.

by Alan Sharpe April 28, 2022

I looked at pornography for the first time at age 11 and for the last time at age 61. November 2021 is when I got serious about kicking my filthy habit and forsaking my wicked sin. Gaining victory in this area of my life required 10 painful steps. Your results may vary, but if you take these 10 steps you may gain victory as well. Here they are.

I confessed my sin to my wife and begged for her forgiveness. I admitted to her that my repeated viewing of porn was repeated adultery against her.

I got rid of all outright pornography and everything even borderline inappropriate from my office and home, including anything found on my PC, laptop and other electronic devices.

I installed porn-blocking and accountability software (Covenant Eyes) on all my electronic devices: work desktop, work laptop, tablet, phone. It takes screenshots of my activity and emails them to my accountability partner daily.

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How to Quit Porn Biblically

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by Alan Sharpe April 19, 2022

Pornography is a sin issue. And sin issues require biblical remedies. If you want to learn how to quit porn, learn what the Bible says on the topic. Then obey what you read.

by Alan Sharpe April 19, 2022

Contents

Sexual Sin Requires a Biblical Remedy
2 Peter 1:3

Step 1
Abstain from Sexual Immorality
1 Thessalonians 4:3

Step 2
Make No Provision for the Flesh
Romans 13:14

Step 3
Pluck Out Your Right Eye and Cast it Away
Matthew 5:27-30

Step 4
Flee Sexual Immorality
1 Corinthians 6:18
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To Conquer Sexual Sin, Get Specific | Acts 15:28-29

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by Alan Sharpe April 15, 2022

Once you translate your generic sin of sexual immorality into your specific sexual sin, you are on your way to achieving sexual purity.

by Alan Sharpe April 15, 2022

“For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit, and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: that you abstain from things offered to idols, from blood, from things strangled, and from sexual immorality. If you keep yourselves from these, you will do well.”
Acts 15:28-29

One key to conquering sexual sin is specificity. Once you start describing your sins specifically, rather than seeing them in the abstract, you gain the insight you need to confess them, ask forgiveness for them, and forsake them. A valuable exercise is to take every generic mention of sexual sin and to make it apply to you specifically.

Consider the early church, for example. Jewish converts were troubling Gentile converts by telling them they had to be circumcised and keep the law. So, the church gathered and settled the matter. They proclaimed that Gentile believers in Christ had to obey only four things:
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Judgment
Watch Porn Habitually, Die Spiritually | Romans 8:13

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by Alan Sharpe April 14, 2022

A man who looks at pornography habitually is, by definition, living according to the flesh. Unless he forsakes his sin, He will die and be separated from God for all eternity.

by Alan Sharpe April 14, 2022

“For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”
Romans 8:13

Do you treat forgiveness as a pre-paid credit card? Do you sin sexually, repeatedly and habitually because you believe your sins—past, present, future—are all forgiven, no matter what, guaranteed? Do you look at pornography and masturbate, week in, week out, knowing that on every occasion you can always rely on God for His forgiveness because God is obligated to forgive you?

If you look at pornography and masturbate but want to stop, your inability to conquer your sin might just be tied to your misunderstanding of eternal security. If you believe you are “once saved, always saved” and that you can never fall away, you need to read your New Testament. Every writer in the New Testament warns believers about falling away. When commissioning the 12 disciples, Christ warns them five times about falling away.
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Sexual Purity Is a List of Do’s, Not Don’ts

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by Alan Sharpe April 12, 2022

Perform the positive actions that God commands, and you’ll have a positive day today, free of sexual sin.

by Alan Sharpe April 12, 2022

If you are a Christian man who has been struggling to overcome pornography or masturbation for some time, you may feel that the only path to victory is a life of self-denial. You may feel that the weight of scripture on this topic is a long list of “Thou shalt nots.” But the opposite is the case, particularly in the New Testament. The path to sexual purity is a list of things you are to do. Victory over sexual sin comes through what you do, not simply what you don’t do. Here are the top-10 actions you are commanded to take to live a life of sexual purity.

Make a covenant with your eyes not to look upon attractive women (Job 31:1)
Gouge out your right eye if it causes you to commit adultery, and throw it away (Matthew 5:29)
Flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)
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Want to Quit Porn and Masturbation? Say “No.” | Titus 2:11-12

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by Alan Sharpe April 8, 2022

The biblical remedy for porn, masturbation and sexual immorality isn’t complicated. It can be summed up in one word.

by Alan Sharpe April 8, 2022

“For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say ‘No’ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.”
Titus 2:11-12 NIV

Want to know the secret to quitting porn? Quit porn. Want to know the secret to not masturbating? Don’t masturbate. I realize that this sounds like simplistic advice, because it is. The guaranteed way to quit sexual immorality is to quit sexual immorality. That’s what the Bible says.

How do you quit porn? Say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions. How do you quit masturbation? Say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions. That’s the formula, that’s the proven method, that’s the biblical remedy. It’s not complicated.

Celebrate Recovery, Sexaholics Anonymous and other 12-step programs complicate this issue of forsaking sexual sin. <a href="https://www.celebraterecovery.co
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Temptation
Sexual Sin Starts Between Your Ears | John 13:2

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by Alan Sharpe April 4, 2022

Sexual purity comes when you change what you believe. Or, rather, when you change who you believe.

by Alan Sharpe April 4, 2022

“And supper being ended, the devil having already put it into the heart of Judas Iscariot, Simon’s son, to betray Him.”
John 13:2

Your battle for sexual purity takes place in your mind. You may think that pornographic websites are the enemy, or that immodestly dressed women are the problem. You may even think you are an addict. But if you watch pornography habitually, if you masturbate compulsively, but long to quit, you must first realize that you don’t have a sexual problem—you have a thinking problem.

Your enemy is the devil. And the battleground is your mind. The devil puts thoughts and desires and beliefs into your mind, just as he did with Judas. Judas probably thought that betraying Jesus was his idea. But where did that idea come from in the first place? From the devil. The devil put the thought of betrayal into the heart of Judas.

In the Bible, the heart refers to
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Obedience
To Quit Porn, First Discover Your Big Why | 1 Kings 18:21

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by Alan Sharpe March 22, 2022

I waited 30 years to discover a strong enough motivation to quit porn. Please don’t follow my example.

by Alan Sharpe March 22, 2022

“And Elijah came to all the people, and said, ‘How long will you falter between two opinions? If the LORD is God, follow Him; but if Baal, follow him.’”
1 Kings 18:21

If you want to quit pornography and masturbation, discover your Big Why. Find your reason, your motivation, your incentive for quitting sexual immorality once and for all. Just make sure it’s a big enough reason. Without a solid motivation for quitting, you are likely to return again and again to your sexual sin. I speak from experience.

I looked at pornography for the first time in 1971 and for the last time in the winter of 2021. I know the month and I know the year because 2021 marked my 30th anniversary as a Christian. I was converted in the summer of 1991 after a miraculous series of events that proved the reality of God’s working in my life. That July I repented of my sins, trusted Christ as my Savior, and asked God to forgive me based on the sacrifice, burial and resurrecti
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Obedience
You Aren’t a Porn Addict Who Needs Recovery | 1 Corinthians 15:34

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by Alan Sharpe March 11, 2022

Watching pornography isn’t an addiction you recover from. Masturbation isn’t a compulsive habit you need treatment for. Both are wicked sins that you are to stop doing. Now. Not eventually.

by Alan Sharpe March 11, 2022

“Awake to righteousness, and do not sin; for some do not have the knowledge of God. I speak this to your shame.”
1 Corinthians 15:34

If you discover that a brother in your congregation has a habit of sneaking out of the house at night and murdering people, should you encourage him to get into a 12-step recovery program so that he can overcome his childhood trauma and gradually wean himself off his bad habit?

What about theft? If you learn that a brother in the Lord has a compulsion to pick pockets on the metro, should you encourage him to attend Celebrate Recovery meetings month after month until he finally gains victory over his addiction?

What about lying? If your Christian colleague repeatedly lies to his boss, lies to you and lies to your bank, should you invite him to join Christian Liars Anonymous and to take their 90-Day Truth Detox as many times as needed until he eventually sto
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Don’t Call Your Willful Sexual Sin a Relapse | 2 Peter 2:13-14

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by Alan Sharpe March 10, 2022

Never think that sinning sexually even once is OK and nothing to worry about. Block the online false teachers who tell you otherwise. Your soul depends upon it.

by Alan Sharpe March 10, 2022

“They are spots and blemishes, carousing in their own deceptions while they feast with you, having eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease from sin, enticing unstable souls. They have a heart trained in covetous practices, and are accursed children.”
2 Peter 2:13-14

When is the last time you had a conversation with a false teacher about porn and masturbation? More recently than you might think, most likely. If you are one of those Christian men who turns to Quora, Reddit and other online communities for support for your habitual sexual sin, you have likely run into a false teacher or two, and likely without even knowing it.

False teachers have eyes full of adultery, and they entice unstable souls by downplaying the gravity of sexual sin. They never call pornography and masturbation sexual immorality, or wicked, or sinful. They call them compulsive behaviors. They call sexual sin acting out. They call it a struggle. When you have a p
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To Quit Porn, Beware of False Teachers | 2 Peter 2:18

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by Alan Sharpe March 9, 2022

Your job is to spot false teachers before they snatch away your sexual purity and wreck your testimony—and life.

by Alan Sharpe March 9, 2022

“For when they speak great swelling words of emptiness, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through lewdness, the ones who have actually escaped from those who live in error.”
2 Peter 2:18 NKJV

There’s only one thing worse than feeling shame for your sexual sin. Feeling no shame. If you are trying to conquer pornography or masturbation, be careful where you go for advice. If you post a question on Reddit or Quora, for example, watch out for the un-biblical answers you quickly receive from some professing Christians on these and other online forums and discussion boards. Because one of the goals of false teachers is to lure you back to the very sexual sins you are trying to escape.

This is the warning that the apostle Peter has for you when he tells you that false teachers allure through lewdness. Lewdness is a word you don’t he
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Obedience
Are You Living in BC or AD? | 1 Peter 4:3

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by Alan Sharpe March 7, 2022

You have engaged in enough unrestrained sexual immorality and shameless use of pornography. Those are things that the lost like to do. Time’s up for you.

by Alan Sharpe March 7, 2022

“For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles—when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries.”
1 Peter 4:3

God has put a time limit on your use of pornography and masturbation. If you are still watching porn and pleasuring yourself after all these years, you should know that you are well into overtime. The game could end any minute now. You are outstaying your welcome, and trying to outlast God’s patience.

Peter looked at his life as being divided into two periods: life before Christ, and life after Christ. Pre-conversion and post-conversion. Life in the dark, and life in the light. His time before Christ was the period of his life when he did what lost Gentiles desire to do. He walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries. But then He met Christ. Or, rather, Christ met him. Peter’s life was differ
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Are You a Slave Without a Master? | Titus 3:3

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by Alan Sharpe March 3, 2022

No one bought you in a slave market. No one owns you. No one commands you to sin sexually.

by Alan Sharpe March 3, 2022

“For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another.”
Titus 3:3

Do you consider yourself powerless over pornography? Do you look at your masturbation habit and consider it a compulsive behavior that you are unable to manage? Do you, in short, believe that you are a slave to sexual immorality? If you believe these things about yourself, then you believe the first lie of the Celebrate Recovery 12 Steps: “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.”

Celebrate Recovery bills itself as a “Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind.” The movement is filled with sincere Christian leaders who mean
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Sanctification
Are You Running in the Right Direction? | Hebrews 12:14-17

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by Alan Sharpe March 2, 2022

What you run from, and what you run towards, has eternal consequences for your soul.

by Alan Sharpe March 2, 2022

“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears.”
Hebrews 12:14-17

If you want to conquer pornography and masturbation, run in the right direction. What you run from, and what you run towards, has eternal consequences for your soul. Those who flee fornication avoid sexual immorality. Those who don’t, don’t. Those who pursue holiness see God. Those who don’t, don’t.

In the Letter to the Hebrews, the writer, inspired by the Holy Spirit, commands you to pursue holiness. The word purs
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Prevention
To Conquer Sexual Sin, You Need Christ and Crucifixion (Yours) | Romans 13:14

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by Alan Sharpe February 17, 2022

Don’t expect to live a life of sexual purity with worship alone, or willpower alone. You need both.

by Alan Sharpe February 17, 2022

“But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
Romans 13:14

The cure for habitual sexual sin is Christ and crucifixion. Christ as the primary object of your affection. And your own crucifixion of your flesh. You need both to gain victory over pornography and masturbation: adoration and action, worship and willpower, the Savior and self-denial.

This is what the Apostle Paul means when he says you must “put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.” You used to walk in lewdness and lust (Romans 13:13). Now you are to walk properly, decently. And that requires both adopting something new and abandoning something old. It means embracing Christ, and forsaking the flesh.

To “put on” the Lord Jesus Christ means to clothe yourself with Him. It’s the same phrase that appears in the Letter to the
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Masturbation Is a Sin (That’s Why You Do it in Secret) | Ephesians 5:11-12

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by Alan Sharpe February 15, 2022

You don’t need to read any Bible verses to know why masturbation is sin. If you do it in private because you fear getting caught, then you have your answer.

by Alan Sharpe February 15, 2022

“And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.”
Ephesians 5:11-12

If you are still trying to decide if masturbation is sin, simply ask yourself this: “Would I mind if my wife/fiancé/girlfriend/parents saw me performing the act?” If I was all alone, doing the deed, and they walked in and saw me, how would I feel? OK? Ashamed? Not bothered a bit? Mortified?

One of the evidences of sin is that people practice it in secret. Burglars break in at night. Couples committing adultery meet in faraway motels. Online fraudsters use fake names. Bank robbers mask their faces. Murderers wear gloves. Same goes for habitual sexual sins. Men who are hooked on pornography watch it in secret. Husbands who visit prostitu
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Masturbation Is a Sin Because It Fails the Discipleship Test | Luke 9:23

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by Alan Sharpe February 14, 2022

There is simply no way that you or I can masturbate and think that we are denying ourselves.

by Alan Sharpe February 14, 2022

“Then He said to them all, ‘If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.'”
Luke 9:23

If you want to discover if masturbation is a sin, simply examine one of the costs of discipleship for following Jesus. Jesus teaches that if you want to be His disciple, you must deny yourself. Since masturbation is a selfish act that satisfies the flesh rather than deny it, anyone who masturbates fails this fundamental requirement of being a disciple of Jesus.

When Jesus commands you and me to deny ourselves, he uses a word that means to disavow, to reject, to abnegate. It is a word that means to refuse to affirm something, to refuse to confess something, or to refuse to identify with someone or something. It means to contradict, to repudiate, to disown. Get the idea? To be a disciple of Jesus, you and I must take our desires and refuse to affirm them. We must take the urge to look at pornography
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Can You Masturbate to the Glory of God? | 1 Corinthians 10:31

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by Alan Sharpe February 11, 2022

Can you get alone and pleasure yourself, believing that what you are doing pleases God? The answer is self-evident.

by Alan Sharpe February 11, 2022

“Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
1 Corinthians 10:31

The great first principle of walking with the Lord is that no act is innately secular or spiritual. You can serve tables in a diner in a high Christian spirit. And you can preach the gospel in a secular spirit. What matters in the Christian life is not the outward act, but the spirit in which you perform the act. A secular act done to the glory of God is spiritual. A religious act done in a secular spirit is secular.

This great first principle of the Christian life governs every activity you do, from the most mundane to the most sublime. It’s what Paul communicates to the church at Corinth, and to believers everywhere, even to where you are living right now, when he says, “Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” “Whatever” and “all” are all encompassing. They cover everything you do, whether in public or in private.
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Obedience
Can’t Masturbate with a Clear Conscience? Praise the Lord. | Romans 14:23

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by Alan Sharpe February 10, 2022

You can’t masturbate with a clear conscience because you can’t masturbate in faith. Since you doubt, don’t.

by Alan Sharpe February 10, 2022

“But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.”
Romans 14:23

Around 55,000 Christians go online every month and search to discover if masturbation is a sin. They boot up Google and type: “is masturbation a sin” (15,589 searches), “is masturbating a sin” (6,544 searches), “is masturbation a sin according to the bible” (6,494 searches), “what does the bible say about masturbation” (4,774 searches), “is jerking off a sin” (2,400 searches), “is touching yourself a sin” (1,90
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Accountability
Masturbating Defrauds Your Wife | 1 Corinthians 7:4

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by Alan Sharpe February 9, 2022

When you masturbate, you take something that your wife alone has authority over (your body) and use it for your own selfish pleasure. You steal.

by Alan Sharpe February 9, 2022

“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” 1 Corinthians 7:4 NKJV

I know a Christian man who thought that getting married would end his compulsive masturbating. It didn’t. He looked at pornography and masturbated to pornography for the first 20 years of his marriage. Finally, he got so sick of his sin, and of hiding it from his wife, that he confessed all.

He was surprised at his wife’s reaction. “I thought you had lost interest in me, that you no longer found me attractive, and so that was the reason we didn’t make love as often as we used to,” she said. The husband was ashamed, learning that he had not been meeting his wife’s sexual needs. He had thought that his masturbating was a private sin that didn’t hurt his wife. He was wrong.

What this b
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Why Masturbation Is a Sin

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by Alan Sharpe February 8, 2022

Just because the Bible never mentions masturbation doesn’t mean that pleasuring yourself is allowed. Silence is never permission. You must ask in faith.

by Alan Sharpe February 8, 2022

The Bible doesn’t mention the words masturbation or masturbating. That means pleasuring yourself is OK, right? Not so fast. Just because the Bible doesn’t mention something doesn’t mean it’s allowed. You must dig deeper if you want to discover why masturbation is a sin.

Just consider some other sexual activities that aren’t in the Bible. We’re talking exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, obscene phone calls and sexual sadism. Because the Bible is silent concerning these activities, does that mean they are allowed? Of course, not. Take frotteurism, for instance. Frotteurism is “the act of touching or rubbing one’s genitals up against a non-consenting person in a sexual manner.” The Bible never says anything about frotteurism. But I don’t know any Christians who would argue that frotteurism is OK simply because the Bible doesn’t mention it.

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Feeling Horny? There’s a Spouse for That. | 1 Corinthians 7:3

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by Alan Sharpe February 8, 2022

You have a marital duty to your wife, and she to you. When you have sexual desires, don’t take matters into your own hands. That’s what your wife is for.

by Alan Sharpe February 8, 2022

“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.“ 1 Corinthians 7:3 NKJ

One of the mysteries of marriage is that two become one. This is God’s design, one that He instituted back in the Garden of Eden, at the start of human history, with Adam and Eve: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24.

A husband and wife become one in the act of marriage, that is to say, through sexual intercourse. Before their wedding night, they are two individuals. After their wedding night, they are one flesh. Two complete and separate individuals unite to become one in a permanent, unbreakable, life-long union of God’s design. We see the fruit of this unique union in children. A child is a whole and separate individual created by the union of two others. Two create one.

When a
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Masturbation Is Sin Because It’s Not from Faith | Romans 14:23

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by Alan Sharpe February 7, 2022

Is masturbation OK for the Christian man simply because the Bible never mentions it? No. Silence is never permission. Or prohibition. You must ask in faith.

by Alan Sharpe February 7, 2022

“But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.” Romans 14:23

The Bible doesn’t mention the words masturbation or masturbating. That means pleasuring yourself is OK, right? Not so fast. Just because the Bible doesn’t mention something doesn’t mean it’s allowed. You must dig deeper if you want to discover why masturbation is a sin.

Just consider some other sexual activities that aren’t in the Bible. We’re talking exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, obscene phone calls and sexual sadism. Because the Bible is silent concerning these activities, does that mean they are allowed? Of course, not. Take frotteurism, for instance. Frotteurism is “the act of touching or rubbing one’s genitals up agai
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Judgment
Why You Can’t Pray and Masturbate at the Same Time | Romans 1:28-29

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by Alan Sharpe February 4, 2022

Habitual masturbation to porn is one symptom of a heart hardened towards God, of a mind that no longer likes to retain a knowledge of God.

by Alan Sharpe February 4, 2022

“And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers.” Romans 1:28-29

When God gives up on an individual, He gives them over to sexual immorality. Habitual sexual sin is one symptom of a heart hardened towards God, of a mind that no longer likes to retain a knowledge of God. The wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness (Romans 1:18).

If you are a Christian man who habitually masturbates to pornography, and if you desire to quit, reverse-engineer this text to uncover the cause of your bondage—and the remedy. Don’t look to your childhood. Don’t listen to Celebrate Recovery and
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Porn is a Heart Problem | Matthew 15:19-20

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by Alan Sharpe February 3, 2022

The Bible says pornography and masturbation are heart problems for Christian men. Knowing this truth helps you stay sexually pure today.

by Alan Sharpe February 3, 2022

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.” Matthew 15:19-20

You can’t be tempted by something you don’t desire. Or, to state the case in the positive, you are tempted only by what you desire. I, for example, have no desire to see anyone dead, so I am not tempted to murder. I don’t long for wealth beyond the dreams of avarice, so I am never tempted to buy Powerball lottery tickets. But I do on occasion desire sexual satisfaction from sinful sources, and so I am tempted to look at porn and to masturbate. I wish this wasn’t so, but it is what it is, as they say. I have a heart problem.

In the Bible, the heart refers to the seat of the affections, desires and passions, as well as of wisdom and understanding. Jesus says the heart, my heart, your heart, is where adultery and
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Obedience
In Your War with Lust, Never Carry a White Flag | 1 Peter 2:11

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by Alan Sharpe January 31, 2022

If your fleshly lusts war against your soul, then that means you are in a battle. And your only job in this battle is to never, ever, surrender.

by Alan Sharpe January 31, 2022

“Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul.” 1 Peter 2:11

If your fleshly lusts war against your soul, as Peter says they do, then that means you are in a battle. And if you are in a battle, then that means you have an enemy. But your enemy isn’t without. It’s within.

In your war against pornography and masturbation, you are at war with yourself, with your fleshly lusts. That is, you are engaged in a daily conflict with inordinate bodily, animal, unregenerate desires. These lusts come in the form of sexual fantasies, sexual temptations, sexual urges. They attack you when you are watching pornography, when you are lying in bed, even when you are sitting in church.

Your job as a soldier in this war is to never surrender to these fleshly lusts. You are commanded to abstain from them. You are to keep away from them as an alcoholic sta
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Consequences
Kidnapper. Murderer. You? | 1 Timothy 1:8-11

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by Alan Sharpe January 27, 2022

Sexual immorality ranks right up there with kidnapping and murder. Picture yourself among the lawless and ungodly to gain an incentive to quit porn.

by Alan Sharpe January 27, 2022

“But we know that the law is good if one uses it lawfully, knowing this: that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for the lawless and insubordinate, for the ungodly and for sinners, for the unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine, according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God which was committed to my trust.” 1 Timothy 1:8-11

You wake up this morning in a holding cell on Rikers Island. Rikers Island is New York City’s main jail complex. It consists of 10 jails, and houses close to 12,000 inmates. In your cell with you are 20 other offenders. You get to talking. Brad is inside for human trafficking. Sven is up for murdering his girlfriend. Moe lied repeatedly in court under oath. Chen strangled his father to de
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Consequences
You, Porn, and Jesus’ Last Words | Revelation 22:14-15

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by Alan Sharpe January 26, 2022

If you watch porn and have sex with yourself in the process, Jesus has a warning for you. Your final destiny hinges on Jesus’ final words.

by Alan Sharpe January 26, 2022

“Blessed are those who do His commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter through the gates into the city. But outside are dogs and sorcerers and sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and whoever loves and practices a lie.” Revelation 22:14-15 NKJV

You can tell a lot about a person by their last words. On their death beds, the dying reveal what’s important to them. They finally let their guard down, and tell their loved ones some of the things they meant to say while living. After all, final words are just that—the last chance to say something meaningful.

If you want to know what Jesus thinks of pornography and having sex with yourself, simply turn to the last page in your Bible and read Jesus’ final words to you. These are not the last words that Jesus spoke while on earth, but the final words that He spoke to the Apostle John, the “revelation from Jesus Christ, which God gave
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Consequences
Are You a Porn Victim? Or a Volunteer? | Ephesians 4:17-19

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by Alan Sharpe January 25, 2022

Sin is always voluntary, never compulsory. No one, and no thing, forces you to look at pornography. You are never a victim. Only a volunteer.

by Alan Sharpe January 25, 2022

“This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.”
Ephesians 4:17-19 NKJV

In the battle against pornography and sexual immorality, there is no such thing as defeat—only surrender. There is never a time when temptation defeats you, or when sin defeats you, or when the devil defeats you. When you fall to porn or sexual sin, it’s not because you are overpowered. It’s because you surrender.

Sin is always voluntary, never compulsory. No one, and no thing, forces you to look at pornography. No one, and no thing, compels you to masturbate. Yes, the desire may seem irresistible, the urge may appear i
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Prevention
To Avoid Injury or Death, Use Your Body Only as Directed | 1 Corinthians 6:13b

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by Alan Sharpe January 21, 2022

There is a proper tool for every job. Use your body as God intends and you will avoid serious injury or death.

by Alan Sharpe January 21, 2022

“Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. “ 1 Corinthians 6:13b

What task is a flathead screwdriver designed for? This is not a trick question. Are you supposed to use a flathead screwdriver as a chisel? No. Or as a prybar? No. Or as a punch? No. So, what are you supposed to use it for? To install and remove flathead screws. That’s the sole purpose that the tool is designed for.

Now, what about your body? What purpose is it designed for? This is not a trick question. Are you supposed to use your body to have sex with prostitutes? No. Or to masturbate to pornography? No. What about using your body to have sex with your girlfriend? No again. The Bible tells you and me that our bodies are not designed for sexual immorality. They are designed for sex with our wives and no one else. Sex is designed to take place between one man and one woman who are married to each other for one lifetime. That’s
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Sexual Purity Is a Journey, Not a Destination | Romans 13:13

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by Alan Sharpe January 20, 2022

You don’t have a destination. You only have your daily walk with the Lord. And that walk involves no sexual immorality today.

by Alan Sharpe January 20, 2022

“Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy.” Romans 13:13 ESV

If you want to get victory over habitual sexual sin, such as pornography and masturbation, first realize that you won’t find sexual purity on any map. Sexual purity isn’t a destination you hope to reach tomorrow. It’s a walk you take today.

In Paul’s words, you must “walk properly as in the daytime.” That is, you are to walk honestly (KJV), behave decently (NIV), conduct yourself properly and honorably (Amplified). Your walk is to involve no orgies or drunkenness, no sexual immorality or sensuality, and no quarreling or jealousy. Your walk is to be different from those who live in darkness.

Just don’t expect to arrive at a place in your life where you experience zero sexual lust, zero sexual temptation or zero sexual fantasies. T
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Prevention
To Avoid Sexual Lust, Avoid the Second Look | 2 Samuel 11:1-5

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by Alan Sharpe January 14, 2022

David sinned not because of where he was, or because he caught a glimpse of a beautiful woman bathing, but because he took the second look.

by Alan Sharpe January 14, 2022

As a Christian man, you fight a daily battle with your eyes. Like other men, you are tempted sexually primarily by what you see, and these days, you see a lot. You and I live in a hyper-sexualized culture where provocative images are everywhere. Billboards, TV commercials, magazines, websites, retail storefront displays, social media, beaches, smartphone apps, sidewalks, books, fitness centers, movie streaming services, workplaces, college campuses, public transit, swimming pools, church pews, and hundreds of other places tempt you to lust after women with your eyes.

If you want to gain victory over lustful looks, if you want to avoid the predictable chain of events that starts with an innocent look but ends with sexual sin (masturbating to porn, for example), learn a lesson from David, the King of Israel. Review what happened to him, and then act accordingly. Here’s how the event is recorded in The Second Book of Samuel, chapter 11.

It happened in the spring of the year, at the time
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Judgment
10 Things God Calls You if You Look at Pornography

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by Alan Sharpe January 10, 2022

If you want to understand how wicked pornography is in the sight of God, just study the words that God uses to describe the sexually immoral.

by Alan Sharpe January 10, 2022

Are you a porn addict? No. Not according to the Bible, anyway. The world may tell you that you have an addiction, that you have a wound, that you seek intimacy in the wrong places, and that you have a disease called porn addiction. But this is not how God looks at pornography and sexual immorality. If you want to know God’s view of your habitual sexual sin, simply open your Bible to discover what God calls the sexually immoral.

1. Adulterer

You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:27

When you watch pornography, you look at a woman to lust after her. Jesus calls that adultery. That makes you an adulterer.

2. Idolater

For of this
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Sexually Immoral Christians Are Deceived | 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

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by Alan Sharpe January 5, 2022

Some professing Christians think they can call Jesus Lord, practice sexual sin, and still inherit the kingdom of God. They are deceived. Are you?

by Alan Sharpe January 5, 2022

If you claim to be a Christian but engage in habitual sexual immorality, you are deceived. If you profess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord, but continue to masturbate to pornography, you are deceived. This might be the primary reason that you are failing to get victory over your sexual immorality. You are deluded about how you can be both a Christian and a habitual fornicator at the same time.

So, what are you deceived about? The Bible tells you. In The First Epistle of Paul the Apostle to the Corinthians, in the sixth chapter, Paul asks the church at Corinth a simple but searching question:

“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were
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Accountability
You Can’t Conquer it if You Don’t Call It | Genesis 39:9

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by Alan Sharpe December 22, 2021

Some men refuse to name their sexual sin. They use euphemisms to hide their immorality. But the road to victory begins with naming sin for what it is.

by Alan Sharpe December 22, 2021

You can tell a lot about a man by what he calls his sin. One man admits to visiting strip joints, while another man says he frequents gentlemen’s clubs. One man says he visits porn sites, while another tells you he views adult entertainment online. One man confesses to watching peep shows, while another man says he follows webcam models.

Some men refuse to name their sexual immorality. They couch their sin in euphemism and abstraction so that it doesn’t sound as bad as it is. But other men refuse to do this. One of them is Joseph. He’s the fellow who was sold into slavery in Egypt by his jealous brothers. You read about him in the book of Genesis. Joseph didn’t struggle with sexual sin, but he did have a problem with a married woman who kept inviting him, day by day, to have sex with her. This woman was also the wife of his boss. When she tempted Joseph, this is what he said in reply:

“There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, bec
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Prevention
Sexual Sin or Harmless Diversion? | Genesis 39:9

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by Alan Sharpe December 21, 2021

Next time you are tempted to view porn or act out sexually, remember Joseph. See what you are about to do for what it is. And acknowledge who you will be offending if you give in to the sexual temptation. It worked for Joseph.

by Alan Sharpe December 21, 2021

One of the easy deceptions of pornography is that viewing it is just an activity. Watching an X-rated video on your own, you may be deluded into thinking that your activity is just a harmless way to pass the time and release some stress. But the Bible doesn’t look upon pornography, or masturbating to pornography, or sexual immorality, as innocent activities.

Just consider the life of Joseph. After being sold into slavery and taken down to Egypt, Joseph becomes the overseer in the house of Potiphar, captain of the guard. Joseph is given responsibility for running Potiphar’s household. One day, Potiphar’s wife notices that Joseph is “handsome in form and appearance” (Gen 39:6). She lusts after him, and invites him to go to bed with her. Joseph refuses. This is how he replies:

“There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”
Genesis
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Obedience
Sexual Immorality? There’s a Law for That. | Acts 15:28-29

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by Alan Sharpe December 17, 2021

Of the 613 commandments in the Old Testament scriptures, sexual immorality made it into the New Testament. Enough said?

by Alan Sharpe December 17, 2021

If you are a Christian, then you are no longer under law, but under grace, right? The ceremonial laws of the Old Testament do not apply to you, do they? If you are a Gentile believer, then you don’t have to keep the law to be saved, do you?

Well, almost.

The early church faced these doubts. Some believers who had come to Christ from Judaism were going about telling Gentiles that they had to be circumcised to be saved. They were applying an Old Testament law to New Testament believers. This was causing great confusion and anxiety in the early church. So, a group of apostles and elders in the church came together to settle the matter. This is what they decreed:

“For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit, and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: that you abstain from things offered to idols, from blood, from things strangled, and from sexual immorality. If you keep yourselves from these, you will do wel
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Prevention
You, Porn and Apostasy | Jude 1:4

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by Alan Sharpe December 11, 2021

Are there apostates sitting in the pews of your church who use the grace of God to excuse their immoral sexual behavior? Probably.

by Alan Sharpe December 11, 2021

If you’ve ever wondered how to recognize an apostate in your church, look for the man who watches pornography habitually but says the grace of God covers his sin. Look for the man who uses the grace of God as a license to practice sexual immorality. “I am eternally secure in my salvation,” he says. “I know God will forgive me for my sexual sins because they are all covered—past, present, future—by His infinite grace.”

The book of Jude in the New Testament warns you against such men, apostates who deny our Lord.

“For certain men have crept in unnoticed, who long ago were marked out for this condemnation, ungodly men, who turn the grace of our God into lewdness and deny the only Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Jude 1:4

Lewdness means licentiousness, that is, promiscuous and unprincipled sexual behavior. It also means lasciviousness, namely, wanton, lewd, lustful activity. What this passage warns is that th
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Sanctification
Porn is Progressive. But So is Sanctification. | 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

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by Alan Sharpe December 1, 2021

If you continue to watch pornography, you will progress to more wicked forms of sin. But if you continue in sanctification, you will progress in holiness.

by Alan Sharpe December 1, 2021

Want to discover God’s will for your life? Open your Bible and turn to the book of 1 Thessalonians. Find chapter four, and run your finger down to verses three through five. Here’s what you read:

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

God’s will for you is no pornography. No sex with yourself while looking at porn. No sex outside of marriage. Period. There are some decisions in life that you must make without a clear word from the Lord (which career to pursue, where to live, who to marry), but whether you should look at pornography is not one of them. God has spoken on the subject, and spoken clearly.

God’s will
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Accountability
What’s Your Instrument of Unrighteousness? | Romans 6:13

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by Alan Sharpe November 27, 2021

If you want to quit porn, take control of your body parts. Stop offering them as instruments of wickedness.

by Alan Sharpe November 27, 2021

Yes, the sin of watching pornography involves your eyes. But it involves other body parts, too, doesn’t it? I don’t have to name them. If you struggle with sexual immorality, you know that the temptation often starts with your eyes, but you consummate the sin with other parts of your body.

The Bible calls the parts of your body your “members.” And God has specific instructions on what you are to do, and not to do, with your members. Open your Bible to the New Testament, find the book of Romans, and turn to chapter 6, verse 13:

“And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.”
Romans 6:13

This word “members” in the original language of the New Testament mean
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Who Triggers You to Sin Sexually?

Contents

1. Adulterer

2. Idolater